5 Things Being Married Has Taught Me

4. Make time for yourself

The most healthy thing that my husband and I have done, is to have our own space, hobbies, and friends. It is important, especially in the beginning, to establish and maintain your individuality. Yes, yes, “the two shall become one,” and all that. This is true. But you don’t literally have to become the same person. You know those couples who always use we whenever you ask them something? “Oh, we love tennis; We can’t come over, we’ll be out in the garden; we just hate when it rains; etc., etc.” Seriously, do you have any interests? Don’t lose yourself, your personal hobbies and interests. That is a recipe for a bitter meltdown later in life. So, get to know who you are again, hang out with the girls every once in a while, read a book just for fun, have a guilty pleasure show, go on a run. You do you.

5. Every marriage is different

Just like it is never a good idea to compare yourself with other people, it is even worse to compare your marriage to anyone else’s. You never know what is going on, really. If a marriage looks perfect on the outside, don’t be jealous; rather, learn from the couple, see what makes them work so well. If a marriage looks terrible – don’t judge! Encourage! Most of all, you don’t know what else is going on in someone’s life. Some relationships have a lot of baggage to wade through. Some relationships are easy, but they are burdened financially. Bottom line, you worry about your own business, and be a light wherever you can.

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