Beyond Praise: 8 Ways to Boost Your Child’s Self-Esteem Without Saying “Great Job!”

Give Thoughtful Praise and Recognition

Try providing more specific praise about the efforts that your child is making instead of just focusing on the results. For example, instead of simply saying, “Great job!”, try something like, “I’m really proud of how you stuck with it and completed that project you started.” According to Dr. Evans of the NYU Child Study Center, specific and genuine praise helps build confidence and also shares your values with your child.

Create a Safe Environment

It’s important to create a safe, supportive and loving home environment. Children that come from a safe and secure environment are more resilient and adaptive emotionally because they are more likely to feel secure and confident about themselves and their place in the world.

Play With Your Child

Taking the time to play and truly engage with your children sends your children the message that you value them, they are worth your time and that they are special to you. Not only is it fun to let yourself get lost in playing with your child, but you can also learn a lot about your child. Your child can also build self-confidence by engaging, learning and feeling a sense of accomplishment from playing with you. According to Dr. Sears, when you play with your child, everybody wins.